My resolution for 2012 was to “lead with compassion”, that means that every conversation and every thought has to be filter through a compassionate lens. I want to be able to imagine people at their best, when they are behaving their worst; I want to always give people the benefit of the doubt and assimilate the idea that most humans are born good, and it is this dysfunctional society and its jungle-like economic system what makes them “bad”.
Of course so far I am doing a terrible job with my resolution. Changing your view of the world and the way that you relate to it is not easy. Also it is hard to control your emotions, specially when they are connected to prejudices rooted in your brain for years. But I will keep trying because I think is necesary.
Leading with compassion is hard because our society tell us to do the complete opposite. In this modern world, we are taught that to succeed you need to be faster, smarter and stronger than the rest. Compassion is often view as weakness, and the weak is destine to fail in our world.
The Buddha taught that to realize enlightenment, a person must develop two qualities: wisdom and compassion and I believe he was right. I believe that if all of us agreed to become wiser and use compassion as our compass, we will change the colliding course in which our society is going.
Compassion is not about being nice (at least the way I see it) it is about going the extra mile to understand those that we don’t, it is about trying to figure out how to end suffering when we see it. I can still be firm and even bitchy when necessary as long as those attitudes, come from a place of real love and understanding.
The business of adding compassion to the soup of emotions I live in, is difficult but worth it, and I am doing it because I strongly believe that my well being is connected to the acts and suffering of every human being in this planet.
I want to end this smugy post by saying that compassion has to start with compassion for yourself; quoting the great philosopher of our times Ru-Paul “if you don’t love yourself how are you gonna love sombody else, can I get an Amen!”